It Is What It Is
So day two. This is about managing the uncertainty of how you may be feeling at the moment.
Perhaps there’s been a big change which has meant that the life that you thought you had ahead of you is no longer an option. Maybe you just can’t see any light at the end of tunnel, you can’t picture a brighter future. Or you’re worried about how things are going to work out.
Feeling like this is natural, uncertainty is uncomfortable. It’s like you’re a tent without any pegs. You’re desperately trying to figure it all out, and find ways of making the uncertain certain again.
This is not your first step.
I would suggest that you don’t make any rash decisions whilst you are feeling emotional and confused.
Get yourself grounded first.
HOW TO GET GROUNDED:
- Get out into nature and breathe in some clean fresh air into the lungs
- Anything involving the feet helps you to ground – walking, massaging the feet, perhaps even treat yourself to some reflexology!
- Do some deep breathing exercises such as this one
1) Exhale completely through your mouth, making a whoosh sound. 2) Close your mouth and inhale quietly through your nose to a mental count of four. 3) Hold your breath for a count of seven. 4) Exhale completely through your mouth, making a whoosh sound to a count of eight. 5) This is one breath. Repeat for at least ten rounds
- Do something practical that engages your mind and your body, for instance, painting, gardening, arranging flowers, tinkering on your bike, cooking, playing with clay, doing a jigsaw puzzle.
- Lie down on the bed or on the ground and using all your senses notice, and name, how good it feels.
- Do something to self-soothe, for instance, take an Epsom salts bath with some added drops of lavender oil, light some candles and stay in the bath for 15-20 minutes. I recommend this to my students all the time…and on that note…
- Do some yoga!! This is my favourite sequence to use to ground myself. Repeat it again and again until you feel less anxious and more centred. Earth Salutations out in nature.
“Feel The Fear And Do It Anyway” was her most famous book, but this was my favourite.
From this book I learned to try not to “worry” about what was going to happen, but rather “wonder” what was going to happen. If you’re feeling uncomfortable about the changes that are taking place, read this book.
Neuroscientists have claimed that this is the most relaxing piece of music ever, and it is particularly beneficial for reducing anxiety.
I’ve tried it out many times in my classes, as well as on myself, and I can safely say I think they are right. Either use it tucked up in bed, under a blanket, over a bolster, on the tube, or hiding in the stationery cupboard at work when it’s all getting a bit much.
NB Do not listen to this whilst driving or operating heavy machinery.
Watching a movie is one of my favourite ways to switch off, but when you are in a state of anxiety, the last thing you need is fast cars and violence.
This brain of ours is a very sensitive computer, so why not choose something that’s going to help with the programming?
I’ve watched “The Shift” again and again, and each time I get something new from it. There are multiple narratives running through the film, we probably all can relate to at least one of them, but it’s a film of hope and accepting change.