So, I am at the end of my 24 day Hygge challenge and it’s nearly the end of the year, so I see it as the perfect time for a bit of reflection.
I know I speak for a lot of people when I say that it has been a somewhat challenging year, and although the inclination is to leave it behind and forget all about it, I think it’s important to look back at what has been learned.
After all, in life there should be no regrets, only lessons.
So here’s my list of what I have learned through my own experiences this month, this year, and also from the events around the world.
Perhaps there are some that resonate with you.
1. I am not able to predict the results of an election. I should therefore stop trying, but that does not mean I should stop voting, nor standing up for what I believe in.
2. Everything is a lesson. We can learn from everything that happens to us, but we need to look for the gift in it, and keep looking until we find it.
3. Sometimes it is the people that come into our lives whom are the lessons. They are here to teach us something about ourselves, and perhaps they were only there for that lesson, but not forever.
4. When you change on the inside, you inevitably change on the outside. Your environment, the people you spend time with, the things you attract into your life may change. The changes may not always be what you asked for or expected, but they tend to be for your greater good.
5. Being kind to yourself works wonders. The art of self-care is not something you need to make time for each day; it is a state of mind, an attitude, which can be cultivated to be used in any situation we find ourselves in.
6. It is worth exercising patience. The best things in life are worth waiting for, and they will come when they are meant to and when we are ready for them.
7. When we let go, and let it flow, that’s where the magic lies. The art of surrender is life-changing. Our conditioned brains do not always know best, something better is coming along if we trust the process.
8. Compassion for others is important, but not when it is at the expense of our own. Not everyone can be helped, or deserves our help.
9. In the darkest times, we must find a way to be the light, even if it’s just in the small world around us. When we find our light, we must do our best to protect it.
10. We must also protect our energy, which is our most important asset. To know what builds up our energy and what drains our energy, means we know the secret of how to live, or at least where and how to spend our time, and who with.
11. Whether we can trust another person or not doesn’t matter, for we have no control over this. What is more important is that we trust ourselves, and we trust what the Universe has in store for us.
12. Everyone is entitled to be ill. It could be that even the illness was a gift, it could be shedding of the old skin, or a sign the caterpillar is turning into a butterfly. Don’t beat yourself up for it – as per no. 5, always be kind to yourself.
13. It really is the little things in life that count. As my student Beth reminded me of the other day:
“Enjoy the little things in life, as one day you will wake up and realise that they were the big things”.
For me this was a poignant learning this year, as I realised so much is out of our control, and when I watch the news it strikes me how little impact I can have on these major events going on in the world.
However, I know that allowing myself to get too affected by these things does the world no good whatsoever. I want to continue to do the little things, for me and for others, and to be a light, even if it’s just in the smaller world around me. Then I hope that this inspires others to do little things too, to find their joy, find their own way, and be the light.
And I pray for the world for 2017 and hope that everyone it in finds a bit of light in the darkness.
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year everyone!