As published in the Express and Echo 31st October 2016
Before I start, let me just explain that it is not my place to give advice here, but I prefer to see it that I am sharing what I have learned from first-hand experience, in the hope that others may benefit from it.
So, if my words don’t resonate with you, please feel free to discard them as not relevant to you. This life is a personal journey, we each have our own path, and the choice is always yours as to what you do with the information you receive.
My journey is one of constant self-reflection and analysis, and although some may say I think too much, I see it that I just want to be free of those things that hold me back.
One of these things is my tendency to worry too much. Like most people, I worry about things that are out of my control, I worry about not being good enough, and I worry about other people. I want to create a safer, more peaceful world, for myself and for those around me.
In this process, I have discovered that worrying is not useful. Being a “worrier” has become tiresome. Anxiety is a burden. Feeling like the victim is not empowering in the slightest.
I’ve found a new way, which involves a whole new way of being, and I wanted to share it with you in case this is something you struggle with too.
Much of worrying comes from a place of not feeling in control of our lives, and not having strong boundaries. It comes from sitting back and thinking too much, instead of having conviction in our decisions and taking action.
Nothing ever changed from someone sitting worrying about a situation. It changed because those with guts, with the courage to risk failure or looking silly, chose to get on and make it happen.
I don’t know about you but I don’t want to be the passive onlooker. Whether it’s trying to help someone in danger, speaking out against injustice, or standing up for yourself, making a stand is always going to feel more empowering than non-action.
I think it all boils down to the same thing. We spent so much time in our heads, we’ve lost the ability to trust our own instinct. We are disconnected to our bodies more so than ever, because we’re not present, we’re elsewhere, worrying about what has happened and what could happen.
So how about instead of being the worrier we become the warrior?
I’m reading a book at the moment by an author called Paulo Coelho, and it’s ideal for making this transition.
It’s called “Manual of the Warrior of Light”, and it’s full of inspiring short passages to help us on our journey to becoming a warrior – one who appreciates the miracle of being alive, the one who accepts failure and the one whose quest leads them to become the person they want to be.
Who wouldn’t want to be a warrior of light, I ask myself.
There are some gems in this book, and sometimes that’s all we need to give us a new perspective on life, a new way of seeing things, a new way of showing up in the world.
Here are some of my favourites, I hope you find them useful, and maybe they inspire you to find the warrior within as well.
“The warrior of light sometimes behaves like water, flowing around the obstacles he encounters”.
“A warrior of light is not constantly repeating the same struggle, especially when there are neither advances nor retreats”.
“The warrior has to simply accept the challenge”.
“Convince your enemy that he will have very little to gain by attacking you; this will diminish his enthusiasm”.
“The warrior of light needs time to himself. And he uses that time for rest, contemplation and contact with the Soul of the World”.
“The moment that he begins to walk along it, the warrior of light recognises the Path”.
“The warrior has memories, but he learn to separate the useful from the unnecessary; he disposes of his emotional rubbish”.
“A warrior of light shares with others what he knows of the Path”.